Being Friends, Choosing Friends–A preamble to the Daily Word

Being Friends, Choosing Friends

When I was a girl, living in Chicago, my friends were not chosen. They were incidental to my elementary school life. I may have become “friends” by being a “talking acquaintance” in gym, during morning recess, or in holding hands in rows of two as we were ushered through the hallways by our teacher. I tended to adore my friends, thinking them better off than I, or living in better homes with calmer conditions. I could be easily lead to small shop lifting or mischievous class-clown pranks or lead to spend my lunch money on sweets just to be a part of the crowd. If I lost favor with a friend, I would chase behind that one until I made it right on any terms. I did not value myself above what they thought of me. I just wanted to be included in our circle of separation from other groups of kids. That pattern lasted a while.

In high school I made friends on the basis of seating in the classroom, also of like interests in chosen courses and with those who were “the smart ones.” I could always get help with homework this way, and be thought of as a smart one, too by the company I kept. It never occurred to me that I was really of the same ilk as those I associated with. I followed trends with my school mates but I didn’t follow the wrong crowd and get in trouble. An improvement over elementary school. I struck out on my own occasionally,too!

In college, I made friends based on the roommate(s) I was assigned, and the study or lab partner my teachers paired me with. I joined a sorority. I also made friends in my areas of interest writing club, broadcast, track, and teaching. Some friends came at parties, some at civil right’s meetings. I learned civil disobedience at the level of pot smoking and non-passive resistance. I learned sex was a responsible passport to adulthood and a membership card among the coeds. I realized my individuality and difference in a heterosexual reality governed by gender role behavior. Friendships came under fire. Hard balance. Kept a few.

In graduate years of schooling, my friends came from course seminars and parties and a few scholars who liked my writing and points of view. They were the audience for my performances, and I was the ears for their paper presentations. These friendships born of idealism were rich and inspiring.But many evolved onward with the good memory of drinking or eating together, taking tests,and teaching or being taught together.

In later life, as I moved from city to city, employment to employment, my friends grew out of mutuality and proximity, as well as conjoined life experience as workers, or women, or lesbians, or political animals.Some of us stood at each others weddings or were present at the birth of a child. Some of us referred one another to our next job, or attended the funeral of other friends together. We visited; we share our achievements. Many of these friends are still in my life. Many allow me to still be in theirs.Some write recommendations on LinkedIn, some show up on or some drop me emails through Facebook, and some I phone chat with or write by post. Some are lynch pins in my maturity and development as a person.

They are friends because we are in touch and occasionally support each others’ lives financially or emotionally. some of us live far apart. Most of us are not the same people we were at the start of our friendships, but the bond is binding not defining. We remember who we have been and applaud each other as we evolve. Friends can be divided into categories of intimacy and activity,but no matter the degree of intimacy or the nature of activity as old friends(continuing friends),we value friendship because the entire history of friend making has taught us the progressive value of the instinct to befriend.

Special shout out to: Ida, Gwen, Theal, Daisy,Trilby, Elani, Ann S., Ann M., Marquita, Diana H., Three-J, Teresa, Jackie, Rosa Mendoca, Chris G., Al P. and Joe C.

Here’s your Daily Word

The love of God is expressed through my friends.
Saturday, July 26, 2014

One way the love of God expresses is through friendship. I feel valued and valuable as I connect with my friends. They deepen my experience of life, and our camaraderie is mutually supportive.

With encouraging words and supportive actions, we lift one another’s spirits. We share times of joy and adversity, growing together in friendship. We accept each other as we are and hold faith in positive outcomes for one another. We share a love that has no opposition, only respect, kindness, and a sense of ease.

As I encourage, reassure, or console a friend, I am expressing Divine Love and that love is expressed back to me.
All of you, have unity of spirit, sympathy, love for one another, a tender heart, and a humble mind.—1 Peter 3:8

In His Love [In Her love]–A preamble


In His Love [In Her Love]

As a clairvoyant spirit healer, I see many people on the matter of love.
Some have lost it and want it back. Some have thrown it away by being untrue, or in the spite of divorce or out of jealous hurt. Some have never had the experience of being in love or having been alone since the last relationship, some are seeking it with an aching and lonely heart.

The young think love is a one time forever phenomenon, placing all their utopian dream eggs in the one basket, only to discover that there are challenges,differences, ideals and ideas about how the love one is to act or be or obey. Beyond the passion of attraction and the need for autonomy, young love must gain practice through experience,usually the surprise and heartache of break-ups. But such is Love’s way to teach balance and acceptance. It teaches us how we must work with others. There is self acceptance and self knowledge to be gained and the love of another can teach that and breach that. True love is only true as long as the two make it so.

Love in later life may come again after divorce or the death of a partner; it may come after lots of disappointments or long isolation and one has given up. But when it does come, one treasures the beloved, knowing the rarity of connection, companionship, and the lessons of lost loves. Love is never an always and forever given. It is given when both give (and receive with intentionality).

Yet sometimes,in late life love, there may be a gap between the last and the new love during which one falls to self-doubt and worry,ie, That love may never come again, that one is undesireable, unacceptable, and unable to attract a partner now that youth,beauty,and waistline have gone their own way. But these are illusions; for if we were ever loveable, we still are. Love seeks its own. Love finds its own.

But not until you decide what you want in a partner and manifest that.

This is what I advise my clients to do. I learned it from Patricia Fuqua, the author of How to Find Your SoulMate. It takes some work, but the exquisite experience of waiting and being fulfilled is worth the intense focus,and the earnest faith. One must make a list of and evaluate the relationships that one feels work. Look around among family (mother and father),uncles&aunts, and other models you value. Write down the traits these marriages have and then you will have sense of your own values.

Counter that list with the things that you feel do not work in marriage(.i.e monogamous partnerships). This will ready you to design your next partner. Best done by making a list of your own traits,beliefs,likes&dislikes,physical attributes and abilities, work, character traits, and desires. Take three weeks if you want to, get it clear to yourself. Then,you are ready to write the list of your designer love–it can be as sentences or phrases, but remember,be careful what you wish for.
If you want her or him to not smoke because you are allergic and you think it’s a nasty habit, then put that on the list. If you like to feel tucked away and cherished in his or her arms,then ask for a love that is taller, strong, and affectionate. Ask for everything, just make sure it corresponds to what you know about your own pet peeves and character.

In about 90 days, the pot ought to boil. The Universe offers three or more possibilities when we know what we want, use your free will and intuition to recognize your highest, best, and true love. It can take w while as it did for me, but I dated a lot while I waited for my true love. Oh yes, review your list once a week, keep it under a burning white,red or yellow candle when your’re home. Start a new one off the old flame before it goes out. Be prepared to wait, and let the magic of your attraction bring candidates to you.

You are worthy of the love of your life at any age, just embrace your self love and know not just anyone will do. Design, design, design to come into His Love or Her Love. It’s God’s good pleasure to give you the desire of your heart. Here’s the Daily Word

I activate the healing power of Divine Love.
Friday, July 25, 2014

Love heals. Love is an energy that harmonizes any discord I might be experiencing in myself or in the world. Love is a light that reveals the truth of my wholeness.

Divine Love, everywhere present, is the very nature and essence of my being. Turning within, I recognize and activate the life-affirming and restorative power of Divine Love within me. I deserve to experience the health and wholeness inherent in me. I attract health by adopting practices of self-care and making decisions that improve my life in all aspects.

Established in the awareness of Love’s rejuvenating power, I express the truth of my essential wholeness and well-being today and every day.

The Lord, your God, is in your midst … he will renew you in his love.—Zephaniah 3:17

Whenever You Stand Praying–Preamble to the Daily Word

Whenever You Stand Praying—-Preamble

I do not stand praying often, but frequently when I go to Danish Language School each morning I stop and stand on Okssahallen gade and pray for all the people passing, and for the commerce of the country, for the fulfillment of each person’s day. I watch passers-by for their expressions and their dress. Sometimes I wave or smile. Sometimes passers-by wave back and smile.

I don’t often have forgiveness on my mind in those moments. Usually, I am thinking of peace and order, and beauty in the world. It seems to be a duty to my soul to bless the world with my small hope for us all. I am exercising my light in the world.

But before bed, I get more inclusive. I may kneel bedside or lie on my back looking up at the ceiling. I address God in various ways, sometimes as the naked word, “God” or as “Heavenly One” or as “All There Is” which names every relationship and role I can think of. I have a warm and silly relationship with God; so I can be casual as well as devout. My prayers have parts:Salutation,Praise and Adoration, Gratitude, Blessings for Others, and Forgiveness.

In the matter of forgiveness, I have long since forgiven myself for mistakes and errors in my younger life and for those things I’ve done knowingly or unknowingly of late that may have hurt others. But I think forgiveness is hard for people to grasp as a spiritual power. Many think it is taking the high ground like one-upmanship to offer forgiveness.That it is more about ego than release.This can block the effort or sully it. But this state of being is part of the Believer’s experience of growth and grace. True forgiveness of another who has wounded you may not have to be offered to the other, but demonstrated. It is equally difficult to admit when you are wrong by saying, “I am sorry” or “I made a mistake.” That chagrinned, self-consciousness that you hold back may reveal a part of you that is not at ease with revealing your vulnerability. But that’s the spiritual stuff to grow on. Humility, Wisdom, Grace, and Self-respect .

Here’s Your Daily Word:
I forgive, and I am forgiven.
Thursday, July 24, 2014

When a disagreement or other conflict occurs, who is responsible for the feelings that are left over? I am. Although the other party played a role, my feelings are my responsibility.

After an upsetting experience, forgiveness is the place to begin. Turning within, I contemplate my divine nature and recognize the divinity in others; I consciously and deliberately forgive any of my words, actions, or thoughts that do not reveal divinity, and I do the same for others.

The moment I forgive, I am receptive to divine forgiveness. This is the promise of the wisest sages and a spiritual truth I live each day.
Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone; so that your Father in heaven may also forgive you.—Mark 11:25

Then Will I Hear–Preamble to the Daily Word

Then Will I Hear

Sometimes we put off until tomorrow what we can do today.
But tomorrow is not given, and it is best to make haste while the sun shines for a stitch in time, saves nine….

These sayings are old school wisdom, yet appropos to today’s Daily Word. The scripture suggests that the Living God, a corporal figure, will hear us with real ears should we pray. It’s as if it is an on/off proposition. If you pray, then I will hear you. But prayer is not a lucky rabbit’s foot.
Unity teaches that all of our thoughts are prayers.

Thus, our inner dialog is a prayer. Whatever we put our minds on, again and again is heard by the God in ourselves and that set of thoughts manifests as the environment we live in and the situation of that environment. It includes what we perceive as others’ behavior or motives, other’s attitude. If we can see it and name it, we know it ourselves from the inside. Do we pray from judgment, doubt, confusion,fear,anger?

So you must listen to what you are telling yourself about how you are, and what you want, and who has hurt you or what you will not do and what you can’t do. “It takes one to know one,” kids would retort in response to name-calling.

Once you have learned to govern your thinking, to drive your thoughts like so many wild horses into the corral of spiritual thought (forgiveness,enthusiasm, joyousness,prosperity,expectation of good,etc). Then your life will look like you imagine in all aspects. Your gratitude will allow God within and without to hear you. Here’s your Daily Word:

The light of a new day is dawning in my consciousness. I walk serene and sure.
Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Let us unite in prayer for the realization of spiritual light, which will illumine our ways in the days to come. In scriptural symbology, a new day represents a degree of unfoldment in spiritual consciousness. When the light of a new day dawns in our consciousness, it dissipates any condition of spiritual darkness that may have preceded it, just as the sunrise following the dawn dissipates the night and makes all things clear and beautiful.

As the light of a new day dawns in our consciousness, all indecision and all uncertainty are done away with. We see before us opportunities for realizing our good, for practicing good will toward all people, for loving God with all our hearts, minds, and strength. Each day, each moment offers us new opportunity.
If my people … pray … then will I hear … and will heal their land.—2 Chronicles 7:14

Where Silences Lives

Where Silence Lives

Yesterday it was cloudy and gray in Copenhagen, but Vivi and I wanted to go out for a walk or a drive to the strand (Baltic sea coastline in Denmark). So we drove to one of our favorite hangouts, and went into the Verdens Runt Restauranten for a nice bite of lunch and a hot drink. It did not rain.
She had a turkey sandwich on a large bolle (roll) with a Danish spread and a kaffe latte. I had a turkey and bacon salat with a hot chocolade with whipped cream. It was tasty and took me a while to eat it. Det var deligt! (It was great!). We studied the moody sky and calm seascape from our window seat in the restaurant. There passed a cruise ship and a cargo ship. How prescient!

After this, we took that walk. There was an entrance to a close by forest just a few easy steps across the grass. So, arm in arm, we strolled in tot the cathedral of “skoven”(the woods). The quiet of the day was already in the cool breezy wind, but once we walked into the the bower of trees and low bushes, a silence more profound that in a mausoleum fell on us. We became a part of a hush and a being that transcended the ordinary quiet. It was as if we entered a church or a sacred ceremony and had to be very,very respectful. I felt it. It made me cry. We walked deeply into the interior. Not a word spoke we for a while.

I was so enveloped that I felt like taking off my top and being, at least for the moment, a daughter of nature, breasts free, blended into the bark and the bramble,brown with the dark earth and in contrast to the deeply pronounced greens of the tree tops and flora. Just us together in this hallowed place, blessed. It was mighty awing, and we held hands–perfect halves of a whole, like connecting into the infinite presence of God, hands clasped in prayer.

Here’s your Daily Word:
Be still and know that I am God.
Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Be still, my child, and know that I am God. I am within you, your life, your intelligence, the very breath of your being. My protecting mantle of love infolds you, and you need have no fear, for I am your eternal and everlasting refuge.

If the flood waters of fear and doubt sweep over your being and you cannot seem to gain a foothold or keep afloat, remember that in the midst of you is an ark of healing silence. Stop struggling, resisting, and fighting; surrender to the stillness of this inner sanctuary. The flood waters will recede, and the dry land (your good) will appear.

In every situation be relaxed and poised in mind and body. Be still and know that I am God. I, within you, am the God with whom all things are possible. I, within you, am the same Spirit that resurrected Jesus. No matter what your needs may be, I am what you seek.
Be still, and know that I am God.—Psalm 46:10

The Spiritual Ethers are filled with Plenty

Repeat three times frequently–A spell, a mantra, an affirmation

Silence: The spiritual ethers are filled with plenty; prosperity fills the air, and I have abundance for every need!

Silence: The spiritual ethers are filled with plenty; prosperity fills the air, and I have abundance for every need!

Silence: The spiritual ethers are filled with plenty; prosperity fills the air, and I have abundance for every need!

Here’s your Word:
The spiritual ethers are filled with plenty. I am prosperous!
Sunday, July 13, 2014

In one of his early lesson series, Unity cofounder Charles Fillmore introduced a set of affirmations to be repeated daily in the Silence: The spiritual ethers are filled with plenty; prosperity fills the air, and I have abundance for every need!

Following Fillmore’s example, I repeat these affirmations three times, unifying myself with the manifesting power of the Divine within. I then turn my attention inward and silently let the prayer permeate my consciousness and transform any thoughts of lack.

As affirmations of plenty inhabit the deepest part of me, I attract and embrace bountiful blessings. I draw forth from the ethers prosperity that fills my life!

I have been paid in full and have more than enough; I am fully satisfied.—Philippians 4:18

“Uphold You with My Victorious Right Hand”

“Uphold You with My Victorious Right Hand”
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There is a card called ” The Ace of Swords” in the Herbal Tarot. It shows a hand coming from a fluff of white clouds, holding a red hilt-sword with a crown suspended at the tip. The image floats above a blue mountains below, a wiry, curl of chamomile weaves around the entire image like ivy climbs.The hand is a right hand. It is Caucasian.

The card can mean lots of things depending on the questions asked, but I often wonder how the designer of the card imagines we can trust a card that is predisposed to a given religion. Can one draw an abstract racially and uncolored truth from an image that assumes you accept and believe in the representation in the card?

In other words, how can one avoid imposing white Christian belief inherent the readings? How can it be ignored in favor of an unprejudiced reading? Because these images only mean in the context of the seer’s mind or the viewer’s mind. The crown,the sword,the heavens(clouds) and mountains (high place) may be interpreted independently from history or as profane symbols.

For God is not a hand (or any other body part–not even the proverbial Heart of God). God is not a throne or a place. God is not male or female, God is not God, but All: toothpicks to cement, babies to ants, raindrops to candy bars.
There is no thing, no one, no idea and no thought prehistoric, ancient,or modern that is not fused with the It of God, inseparable, indivisible, unfathomable God.

God may be visualized, conceptualized as I do here, but it is the face that moved on the deep which was no face at all. It is the mighty winds that cut a path through the Red Sea, and the Voice,that spoke from the burning bush and at Jesus’ baptism. God is myth and magic and neither. And yet, Present, present, more real than reality, and we (cultures world wide) are open to hearing and knowing It; we embody a variety of Beliefs that make holy the Presence of God in our lives. So be, it.

Call it “Almighty” the Creator, the Maker, the Author of our Faith, or don’t. Hold God in your own good right hand–or pocket or wallet or in your heart.For He, She, It will always be holding you in some inscrutable way–in ITS hand (which is as good an image as any). Here’s your Daily Word

God is my strength; I am victorious.
Saturday, July 12, 2014

Many athletes succeed because, along with consistent practice, they picture themselves performing to the best of their ability. They visualize crossing the finish line, hitting a home run, or scoring the game-winning point.

When I have a weighty task before me, I picture myself completing it successfully. My practice sessions include prayer and meditation as I tap into the unlimited power, strength, and wisdom of God within.

Athletes are victorious because they give it their all. As I reach for my goals, I pursue them with perseverance and optimism. I visualize success, stay attuned to Source, and I am victorious!
Do not fear, for I am with you … I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my victorious right hand.—Isaiah 41:10

Stream of Divine Energy


They flow like a river these days of glory and sharing.
I saw several more people today, some with significant turbulence in their lives and felt, again honored to have another day to serve. Where I could I laid hands and prayed. Where I could I comforted with showing my client she or he was not alone. In some instances I channeled the deceased. A variety of spiritual and learned gifts allow me to meet the needs of each one uniquely. The Holy Spirit is able to meet every need and flows like the quenching cool water of a drink on a hot summer day. I’ve been up since 7 AM and have attended to several clients, done some office shopping, attended the Copenhagen jazz festival venue nearest my office and organized all of the files for my clients and business.I have posted the ledger, and changed the printer cartridges. I have returned calls, answered e-mail and now, I have written this preamble for the Daily Word which uses that key phrase:”stream of divine energy” and so it is that I am moving with the Spirit. Thank you for your prayers and support, some of my oldest friends are checking in to support this unfolding. Thank you, dear ones. Thank you, God. Here’s the DW:

I am a divine being in the constant flow of life.
Friday, July 11, 2014

Divine energy moves in and through all of life. I experience this flow as Life itself through my breath, ideas, creativity, health, and wholeness. Life is an unceasing river of good.

Throughout my day, I am conscious of this stream of divine energy as I focus on every blessing I receive—a friend’s message, a hug, a lesson. I am energized and empowered. I am in the flow.

Conscious of ways I may be blocking the flow of good, I adjust my outlook from concern to confidence. A change in attitude can make the difference between failure and success. Grateful for the energy and power of Life, I am a divine being in the flow.
Then the angel showed me the river of the water of life, bright as crystal, flowing from the throne of God and of the Lamb.—Revelation 22:1

Comforted at Depth–Preamble to the Daily Word

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When we hurt, get hurt, hurt someone else, it goes deep. We feel it in our muscles, and in our spit. We experience a constriction of our breath, a shallowness and maybe, a hotness within our mouths, chests, hands, and feet. Hurt runs deep.

By the same token, the ‘comfort” of the Holy Spirit, the Godness in us, flows through us like a river of want. When we cry in anquish, wishing things were different, of feeling contrite for something done or left undone, those tears and that anguish is for the love of God. It is the Presence that is watching and listening as we–in our own mind’s eye–see ourselves in such abject misery. When we cry to the stage of dry hurt, that process is the Holy Spirit bringing us closer to our peace and wholeness. It may look like great distress but it is great decompression, “comfort at depth”.

People give us platitudes and sympathies that help but we suspect they are just words; yet if they come from someone we really respect, someone we really listen to, those words, meant to lift and assure us of certain healing are themselves comfort at soul to soul depth.

Today I have come again to the plateau of a prophesy that was made to me in around 2002 when I was so down on my luck and in so much emotional and physical pain. I thought I would never rise again (unholy thinking); that I was on my way to homelessness and welfare til the end of my days. I suffered willingly and constantly. Then, a man I didnot know in the post office, whom I subsequently learned was named Isaiah, asked me why I was walking with my head down. And without preamble, he launched into a diatribe of good news, ending with “God’s going to do a Mighty Work with you. You just keep on trusting Him”. Since that day, I have lived toward the fulfillment of that prophecy.

Now that I am in Denmark,my life seems to have been leading here all the time, and as it unfolds with these new opportunities for service and exposure, I glimpse the manifest Mighty Work taking precious and profound form. Today I weep for the joy of God’s touch on my life (comforted am I at depth). I was brought through a really, very, unbearably hard time to this moment. Praise be to God. Here’s the DW:

One with Spirit, I am comforted.
Thursday, July 10, 2014

God’s love is the soothing salve that relieves my pain. Any wounds of mind, body, or spirit are healed by the presence of God. Even if I feel grief or suffering, I know I am not alone. I need only turn my attention to the Presence within me.

Whatever happens in my life, God provides what I need—wisdom, strength, and support. I am gently eased through this situation one moment at a time. The presence of God reassures me that I am safe and secure.

God is present in every breath I breathe and every beat of my heart. No thought or experience can ever separate us. One with Spirit, I am comforted at depth.
God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth should change, though the mountains shake in the heart of the sea.—Psalm 46:1-2

Unholy Thinking

Unholy Thinking

Today I read for 9 people. They came every hour or so to my office location in Norregade, a street in the central Copenhagen. They each were different and each was a gracious gift given by God for me to provide heart and soul service. I helped one man focus his job search. Another lady overcome her sense of displacement since retiring. I helped a young man make peace with his grandfather’s untimely death. I helped a young woman see the necessity for boundaries in the care of a housebound relative. I aided another young woman in making a decision to avoid being guilt-ed into marriage, and to follow her heart. I supported another young woman in releasing the past and embracing a new path between two other choices. It was a good day. I did good work facilitated by prayer and some meditation and the presence of angel and spirit guides.
I think if there was one message that I gave to each person, it was to change their thinking from self-condemnation, prolonged doubt, and fear of decision. In cases where the person had no religious or inner spiritual resources, I assured them that I had enough Christian experience and faith for the both of us. But by the grace of God many of them did have their brand of belief and trust. It doubled the energy and power to answer their questions or clear their distress–most of which we cause ourselves.

It is unholy to think little of yourself, that you can just find anyone and think that one will be your designer mate. One can manifest a great love with a simple list. Ask me about it in an email–
It is unholy thinking to second guess yourself when you let a relationship go, or quit a job or move in with a long distance lover. It is unholy thinking to hold onto old romance memories and “what if” after a challenging life event is over. Why would you want to live in the hell of circular, agonizing review? It’s unholy. So in today’s daily word, this phrase “unholy thinking” is used–Seems i needed to speak to it. Here is the full text

The grace of God has prepared for me a way of life that is altogether good.
Wednesday, July 9, 2014

The grace of God is not something that we must earn by making sacrifices or doing penance. It is a free, wholesome, impartial gift from God that none of us can escape. Even the most forsaken soul may cherish the hope of infinite grace.

The grace of God is more than mercy. It is complete forgiveness and full, unbounded love. It offers redemption from unholy thinking and living to every person who will accept it. Through grace, God reveals the true nature of the Divine within each person.

Abiding under divine grace, you are spiritually secure and your steady, unimpeded progress into the kingdom of perfection and all good is assured. The grace of God opens to you the swift, glorious, positive way of Truth.

For by grace have ye been save